Kush d\u00ebshiron t\u2019i rritet kapitalit n\u00eb llogarin\u00eb bankare, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr zhvillimin dhe rritjen e kapitalit t\u00eb tij. Edhe ai q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb m\u00eb tej dashurin\u00eb p\u00ebr gruan e tij, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb mjete t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr ta rritur shkall\u00ebn e dashuris\u00eb dhe q\u00eb t\u00eb dy bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt duhet t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbahen asaj.<\/p>\n
Ne do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendim disa nga k\u00ebto mjete:<\/p>\n
1. Shk\u00ebmbimi i dhuratave, edhe pse simbolike, si vendosja e nj\u00eb tr\u00ebndafili n\u00eb jast\u00ebk para se t\u00eb flej\u00eb, ka nj\u00eb magji t\u00eb \u00e7uditshme. Nj\u00eb kartel\u00eb e vog\u00ebl e zbukuruar mir\u00eb, ku i shkruan dy fjal\u00eb t\u00eb bukura, ka ndikimin e saj, t\u00eb hollat e harxhuara p\u00ebr blerjen e dhuratave do t\u00eb t\u00eb kompensohen me ndri\u00e7imin q\u00eb do t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh n\u00eb fytyr\u00ebn e saj, me buz\u00ebqeshjet e \u00ebmbla n\u00eb buz\u00ebt e saj. L\u00ebvdatat, letrat dhe g\u00ebzimi duhet t\u00eb shp\u00ebrndahet n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebndet e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. Por edhe gruaja duhet t\u2019u jap\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi k\u00ebtyre \u00e7\u00ebshtjeve.<\/p>\n
2. Caktimi i koh\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u2019u ulur s\u00eb bashku dhe d\u00ebgjimi me v\u00ebmendje p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Disa komentator\u00eb t\u00eb hadithit ishin befasuar nga heshtja e Pejgamberit sal-lallahu alejhi ue selm n\u00eb hadithin q\u00eb rr\u00ebfen Umu Zerra nga Aishja, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej saj.<\/p>\n
3. Shikimet q\u00eb reflektojn\u00eb dashuri dhe admirimi. Emocionet mes bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve nuk duhen t\u00eb jen\u00eb thjesht duke shk\u00ebmbyer fjal\u00eb dashurie ose kryerjen e detyrave, por k\u00ebto veprime duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet sinjaleve pa fjal\u00eb, p\u00ebrmes shprehjeve t\u00eb fytyr\u00ebs, tingullit e z\u00ebrit, shikimit t\u00eb syve. T\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto jan\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi emocionale dhe psikologjike.<\/p>\n
A duan \u00e7iftet ta m\u00ebsojn\u00eb artin e syve, artin e gjuh\u00ebs s\u00eb toneve t\u00eb z\u00ebrit dhe at\u00eb t\u00eb shprehjeve t\u00eb fytyr\u00ebs? P\u00ebr shembull, a e dini \u00e7far\u00eb ndikimi t\u00eb madh ka gjuha e syrit n\u00eb zemra?<\/p>\n
4. P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetjet e ngrohta n\u00eb hyrje dhe dalje, n\u00eb udh\u00ebtim apo n\u00eb telefon.<\/p>\n
5. Lavd\u00ebrimi i gruas dhe b\u00ebrja e saj t\u00eb ndihet se je xheloz p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe moskrahasimi me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
6. Merrni pjes\u00eb s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb disa gj\u00ebra t\u00eb lehta t\u00eb tilla, si planifikimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen dhe n\u00eb rregullimin e bibliotek\u00ebs. Ndihmoje n\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitjen e ndonj\u00eb ushqimi, p\u00ebr t\u00eb rregulluar di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt apo shkruani nevojat p\u00ebr sht\u00ebpi dhe pun\u00eb t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb lehta, t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb shkak q\u00eb nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb dashurin\u00eb mes jush.<\/p>\n
7. Fjal\u00ebt e mira, shprehjet emocionale dhe t\u00eb ngrohta jan\u00eb si nj\u00eb lloj deklarate dashurie p\u00ebr gruan. Mbill tek ajo ndjenjat se ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb p\u00ebr ty nga i madhi Zot.<\/p>\n
8. Mbledhjet e qeta, duke u kushtuar koh\u00eb p\u00ebr dialog dhe muhabet, t\u00eb p\u00ebrziera me pak arg\u00ebtim dhe t\u00eb qeshur, larg nga problemet, nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, britmat dhe grindjet e tyre ka nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb intimitetin dhe dashurin\u00eb mes bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
9. Bilanci mes pranimit apo refuzimit \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. Nuk duhet pranuar tjetri me nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb t\u00eb tep\u00ebrt e as nuk duhet refuzuar, q\u00eb kjo t\u00eb b\u00ebhet shkak q\u00eb t\u2019i shmangemi nj\u00eb dit\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Dashuria e tepruar \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndaluar. Duhet t\u00eb kemi shum\u00eb kujdes n\u00eb mbajtjen e k\u00ebsaj balance dhe nuk duhet ta neglizhojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje sepse prej saj mund t\u00eb lindin shum\u00eb probleme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortore.<\/p>\n
10. Bashk\u00ebveprimi i dy bashk\u00ebshorteve n\u00eb koh\u00eb krizash n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti, n\u00eb rast se gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb e s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr kujdes, p\u00ebrkrahje konkrete dhe morale apo burri \u00ebsht\u00eb i m\u00ebrzitur p\u00ebr disa arsye, k\u00ebrkon simpati morale apo q\u00eb t\u2019i q\u00ebndrohet pran\u00eb. Dhimbja p\u00ebr dhimbjen e tjetrit ka ndikimin m\u00eb t\u00eb madh n\u00eb nd\u00ebrtimin e miq\u00ebsis\u00eb midis bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve dhe i b\u00ebn ata m\u00eb t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb dashur ndaj nj\u00ebri-tjetrit.<\/p>\n
Shkroi: Dr Ibrahim Duvejsh
\nP\u00ebrshtati: Rashit Zylfiu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kush d\u00ebshiron t\u2019i rritet kapitalit n\u00eb llogarin\u00eb bankare, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr zhvillimin dhe rritjen e kapitalit t\u00eb tij. Edhe ai q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb m\u00eb tej dashurin\u00eb p\u00ebr gruan e tij, duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb mjete t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr ta rritur shkall\u00ebn e dashuris\u00eb dhe q\u00eb t\u00eb dy bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt duhet t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbahen asaj. Ne […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":131,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,22],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-130","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-e-zgjedhur","8":"category-shkrime-autoriale"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=130"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":132,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/130\/revisions\/132"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/131"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=130"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=130"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=130"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}