{"id":842,"date":"2019-07-04T09:45:48","date_gmt":"2019-07-04T09:45:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/?p=842"},"modified":"2019-07-04T09:45:48","modified_gmt":"2019-07-04T09:45:48","slug":"familja-ne-islam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/2019\/07\/04\/familja-ne-islam\/","title":{"rendered":"FAMILJA N\u00cb ISLAM"},"content":{"rendered":"

Urt\u00ebsia dhe vullneti i Allahut i ka paraprir\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, q\u00eb lidhja martesore t\u00eb jet\u00eb koncepti i nd\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb k\u00ebtij universi. Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb: \u201cQoft\u00eb lavd\u00ebruar Ai q\u00eb i ka krijuar \u00e7ift t\u00eb gjitha llojet: \u00e7ka mbin prej tok\u00ebs, ata vet\u00eb dhe ato q\u00eb nuk i din\u00eb!\u201d<\/em>[1]<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

K\u00ebshtu u krijua njer\u00ebzimi nga ata edhe \u00e7iftet, ku n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tyre plot\u00ebsohet ruajtja e k\u00ebsaj krijese dhe vazhdim\u00ebsia n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb. T\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00ebk\u00ebmb\u00ebs n\u00eb tok\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00eblqim me ligjin e Allahut.<\/p>\n

Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb \u201cDhe nj\u00eb prej shenjave t\u00eb Tij \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb prej jush krijoi p\u00ebr ju bashk\u00ebshortet tuaja, q\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoheni pran\u00eb tyre, duke v\u00ebn\u00eb nd\u00ebrmjet jush dashuri dhe m\u00ebshir\u00eb. Me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ka shenja p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb.\u201d<\/em> [2]<\/a> <\/strong>As jeta njer\u00ebzore, as shoq\u00ebria njer\u00ebzore nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb stabilitet p\u00ebrderisa t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb nj\u00eb koncept t\u00eb qart\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje me \u00e7iftin martesor dhe p\u00ebrcaktimin e pozicionit t\u00eb \u00e7donj\u00ebrit prej tyre n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Koncepti islam mbi gruan: <\/strong><\/p>\n

Islami ka treguar nj\u00eb kujdes t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e gruas dhe lidhjeve mes \u00e7ifteve mbi baza t\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebris\u00eb q\u00eb Allahu ka futur n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb krijes\u00eb. Si dhe n\u00eb an\u00ebn e barazis\u00eb n\u00eb aspektin njer\u00ebzor dhe t\u00eb ndershm\u00ebrin\u00eb njer\u00ebzore, q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb zot\u00ebroj\u00eb krijesa njeri, qoft\u00eb mashkull apo fem\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb: \u201cO njer\u00ebz! Frik\u00ebsojuni Zotit tuaj, q\u00eb ju krijoi juve prej nj\u00eb njeriu, nd\u00ebrsa prej atij krijoi bashk\u00ebshorten e tij, kurse prej k\u00ebtyre t\u00eb dyve krijoi shum\u00eb meshkuj e femra.\u201d<\/em>[3]<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb kujdes t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb t\u00eb barazis\u00eb mes \u00e7ifteve e kemi edhe n\u00eb raportet me krijuesin dhe shp\u00ebrblimet tek Ai. \u201cDhe Zoti iu p\u00ebrgjigj lutjes s\u00eb tyre: \u201cUn\u00eb nuk do t\u2019ia humb mundin askujt nga ju q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb vepra, qoft\u00eb mashkull apo fem\u00ebr.\u201d<\/em> [4]<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar e ka krijuar \u00e7iftin njer\u00ebzor n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me pun\u00ebt, q\u00eb ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb ngarkuar n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb anojn\u00eb dhe t\u00eb t\u00ebrheqin nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Islami k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje, apo bashkim e rregulloi duke mos e l\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb rr\u00ebmuj\u00eb apo t\u00eb ushtrohet dhun\u00eb,\u00a0 as n\u00ebn m\u00ebshir\u00ebn e nepsit q\u00eb shpije \u00e7do her\u00eb tek e keqja, as t\u00eb emocioneve t\u00eb pakontrolluara, e as t\u00eb jen\u00eb pre\u2019 e epshit t\u00eb eg\u00ebr. Islami e legjitimoi martes\u00ebn p\u00ebr plot\u00ebsimin e nevojave trupore, shpirt\u00ebrore tek t\u00eb dy pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e \u00e7iftit, ku \u00e7donj\u00ebri ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr tjetrin. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebria e krijimit, ashtu si ka nevoj\u00eb njeriu p\u00ebr veshje q\u00eb t\u00eb mbulohet dhe t\u00eb ruhet nga ndikimet e motit, ose nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur strehim diku. Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb: \u201cAto jan\u00eb petk p\u00ebr ju e ju jeni petk p\u00ebr ato.\u201d<\/em>[5]<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Islami kujdeset p\u00ebr t\u2019i sqaruar t\u00eb drejtat dhe detyrimet mes an\u00ebtar\u00ebve t\u00eb familjes, rregullat e lidhjeve dhe komunikimit mes an\u00ebtar\u00ebve t\u00eb saj p\u00ebr realizimin e drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs. Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar urdh\u00ebron e thot\u00eb: \u201cEdhe atyre<\/em> <\/strong>(grave) u takon e drejta sikurse edhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia n\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebsi…\u201d<\/em><\/strong> [6]<\/a><\/p>\n

T\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb e ka lidhur me besimin dhe ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb devotshm\u00ebria t\u00eb jet\u00eb siguri n\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajtjen e k\u00ebtyre detyrimeve, t\u00eb punohet me to dhe mos t\u00eb thyhet ky rregull, dhe secili prej tyre duhet t\u00eb zbatoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebr veten e vet para se t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb prej tjetrit, duke q\u00ebndruar k\u00ebshtu larg nga padrejt\u00ebsia dhe mizoria. Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb: \u201cKini frik\u00eb Allahun dhe ta dini se Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i Dijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb!\u201d<\/em> [7]<\/a> <\/strong><\/p>\n

Familja \u00ebsht\u00eb e patjet\u00ebrsueshme n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebris\u00eb psikologjike dhe sociale:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Rregulli familjar \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e patjet\u00ebrsueshme, q\u00eb e k\u00ebrkon natyrshm\u00ebria dhe nevoja shpirt\u00ebrore e thell\u00eb e njeriut, gj\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk e gjejm\u00eb tek gjallesat t\u00eb tjera. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb Islami e ka lart\u00ebsuar pozit\u00ebn e familjes dhe ka treguar nj\u00eb interes shum\u00eb t\u00eb madh: n\u00eb themelimin e saj, n\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesjen dhe mbik\u00ebqyrjen pasi t\u00eb krijohet ajo. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb ka legjitimuar dispozita t\u00eb forta, t\u00eb sakta p\u00ebr ruajtjen e unitetit dhe mos-shembjen e saj. Pastaj u p\u00ebrkujdes p\u00ebr vendosjen e masave t\u00eb ndryshme, q\u00eb parandalojn\u00eb \u00e7arjen e saj.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb rastet kur ndodhin stuhi dhe goditet ajo, at\u00ebher\u00eb premtimi duhet t\u00eb \u00e7ohet n\u00eb vend q\u00eb k\u00ebsaj shtylle t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb t\u2019i gjendet ila\u00e7i i suksessh\u00ebm pas nj\u00eb diagnoze t\u00eb sakt\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmundjes, e cila e ka \u00e7uar at\u00eb deri n\u00eb at\u00eb gjendje, dhe njohjes s\u00eb shkaqeve t\u00eb devijimit, q\u00eb e largon nga stabiliteti dhe serioziteti drejt l\u00ebkundjes s\u00eb shtyllave t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n

Realiteti dhe idealizimi n\u00eb sistemin e familjes:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Feja islame edhe pse vazhdimisht i th\u00ebrret njer\u00ebzit drejt ideales dhe p\u00ebrkryerjes n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb, ai po ashtu nuk e anashkalon an\u00ebn e dob\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe t\u00eb devijimit, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do aspekt t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, por edhe n\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb sistemit familjar. Nga ky realitet, q\u00eb Islami nuk e anashkalon \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe ajo q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb, si mospajtimi apo sjelljet e k\u00ebqija mes dy \u00e7ifteve. Natyra e jet\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb drejt mospajtimit dhe grindjeve. Por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb burri t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00eb dhun\u00ebn n\u00eb zgjidhjen e k\u00ebtij problemi, apo t\u00eb shk\u00ebpus\u00eb lidhjen martesore p\u00ebr gj\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl dhe p\u00ebr shkaqe nga m\u00eb t\u00eb lehtat. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb burrit i ndalohet, q\u00eb mos t\u00eb ngutet n\u00eb prishjen e k\u00ebsaj lidhje. \u00a0Islami e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb divorcin gj\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb urryer. Pejgamberi sal-lallahu alejhi ue selem<\/em> ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cGj\u00ebja m\u00eb\u00a0 e urryer e lejuar tek Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb divorci<\/strong>[8]<\/a>\u201d<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Gjithashtu, e ka ndaluar gruan t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb divorc pa arsye. Pejgamberi sal-lallahu alejhi ue selem<\/em> ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201c\u00c7do grua q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon nga burri i saj divorc pa arsye, e ka t\u00eb ndaluar ta shijoj\u00eb er\u00ebn e xhenetit.\u201d<\/strong>[9]<\/a><\/p>\n

Ka ndaluar prishjen reciproke mes \u00e7ifteve dhe e ka klasifikuar k\u00ebt\u00eb nga m\u00ebkatet m\u00eb t\u00eb\u00a0 m\u00ebdha. Pejgamberi sal-lallahu alejhi ue selem<\/em> ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cKush i prish lidhjet e gruas me burrin e saj, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nga ne.\u201d<\/em>[10]<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Islami projekton skic\u00ebn e masave t\u00eb sigurta n\u00eb parandalimin e dhun\u00ebs s\u00eb mundshme n\u00eb raste mospajtimi. \u00c7iftet duhen t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbahen k\u00ebsaj skice p\u00ebr m\u00ebnjanimin e mospajtimeve dhe marrjen e ila\u00e7it t\u00eb suksessh\u00ebm\u00a0 p\u00ebr\u00a0 kthimin n\u00eb gjendje normale t\u00eb familjes .<\/p>\n

\u00a0 Autor: Rashit Zylfiu\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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[1]<\/a> Jasin,\u00a0 36<\/p>\n

[2]<\/a> Rrum, 21<\/p>\n

[3]<\/a> Nisa, 1<\/p>\n

[4]<\/a> Ali Imran, 195<\/p>\n

[5]<\/a> Bekare, 187<\/p>\n

[6]<\/a> Bekare, 228<\/p>\n

[7]<\/a> Bekare, 231<\/p>\n

[8]<\/a> Sh\u00ebnuar nga: Ebu Davudi, Ib\u00ebn Maxhe dhe Hakimi n\u00eb Mustedrekun e tij dhe ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb sipas kushteve t\u00eb Muslimit.<\/p>\n

[9]<\/a> Sh\u00ebnuar nga Ebu Davudi, Termidhiu.<\/p>\n

[10]<\/a> Sh\u00ebnon Taberaniu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Urt\u00ebsia dhe vullneti i Allahut i ka paraprir\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, q\u00eb lidhja martesore t\u00eb jet\u00eb koncepti i nd\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb k\u00ebtij universi. Allahu i Madh\u00ebruar thot\u00eb: \u201cQoft\u00eb lavd\u00ebruar Ai q\u00eb i ka krijuar \u00e7ift t\u00eb gjitha llojet: \u00e7ka mbin prej tok\u00ebs, ata vet\u00eb dhe ato q\u00eb nuk i din\u00eb!\u201d[1] K\u00ebshtu u krijua njer\u00ebzimi nga ata edhe \u00e7iftet, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":845,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,2,22],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-842","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-artikuj","8":"category-e-zgjedhur","9":"category-shkrime-autoriale"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/842","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=842"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/842\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":846,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/842\/revisions\/846"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/845"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=842"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=842"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=842"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}