{"id":866,"date":"2019-07-25T09:50:18","date_gmt":"2019-07-25T09:50:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/?p=866"},"modified":"2019-09-07T07:39:08","modified_gmt":"2019-09-07T07:39:08","slug":"1-sfida-e-emocioneve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/2019\/07\/25\/1-sfida-e-emocioneve\/","title":{"rendered":"1. SFIDA E EMOCIONEVE"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u201cMos u hidh\u00ebro\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn1\" name=\"_ftnref1\"><strong>[1]<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Shembulli yt \u00ebsht\u00eb si deti i qet\u00eb pran\u00eb t\u00eb cilit njeriu ndien qet\u00ebsi, rehati, emocione t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, stabilitet dhe siguri n\u00eb vetvete. N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ai hidh\u00ebrohet, ngrihen dallg\u00eb. T\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb mirat largohen sepse ai ka nd\u00ebrruar gjendjen e tij, as ne nuk ndihemi m\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb, rehat e t\u00eb sigurt pran\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n<p>Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti i emocioneve, frustrimit, tronditjes. Kur kjo gjendje dominon te njeriu, ai ndryshon natyrshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e tij, ngjyr\u00ebn e fytyr\u00ebs, sjelljen, ndryshon pamjen e bukur n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e ka krijuar Allahu.<\/p>\n<p>Allahu thot\u00eb:<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>\u201cAi juve u dha form\u00ebn, e form\u00ebn tuaj e b\u00ebri t\u00eb bukur.\u201d<\/em><\/strong>(Tegabun: 3)<\/p>\n<p>Por, njeriu shnd\u00ebrrohet dhe merr nj\u00eb pamje t\u00eb sh\u00ebmtuar, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn bota njer\u00ebzore nuk e do. Grindjet, p\u00ebrplasjet, rrahjet, shkuror\u00ebzimet dhe belat\u00eb ndodhin kur goja nxjerr fjal\u00eb jo t\u00eb mira. At\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb sfidojn\u00eb momentet plot emocione, sepse jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb t\u00eb udh\u00ebheqin ty e jo ti ato.<\/p>\n<p>Njeriu q\u00eb gjendet n\u00ebn ndikimin e emocioneve harron shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, dit\u00ebt e bukura t\u00eb jet\u00ebs me personat e dashur pran\u00eb tij dhe tani p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb k\u00ebtij ndikimi i largon ata. P\u00ebr nj\u00eb moment shkat\u00ebrron gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka nd\u00ebrtuar me vite, \u00ebsht\u00eb ai moment kur thyhen gj\u00ebra t\u00eb cilat \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb rregullohen.<\/p>\n<p>Kujto kur Omerin e l\u00ebndoi nj\u00eb njeri dhe p\u00ebr nj\u00eb moment kujtoi fjal\u00ebn e Allahut, edhe pse kishte mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb hakmerrej sepse ishte kalif i musliman\u00ebve:<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>\u201c&#8230;<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>q\u00eb e frenojn\u00eb mllefin, q\u00eb u falin (t\u00eb keqen) njer\u00ebzve&#8230;\u201d<\/em><\/strong>(Al\u2019imran: 134)<\/p>\n<p>Kur\u2019ani \u00e7do her\u00eb preferon faljen kur njer\u00ebzit gabojn\u00eb, asnj\u00ebher\u00eb hakmarrjen. N\u00ebse t\u00eb keqen vazhdojm\u00eb ta kthejm\u00eb me t\u00eb keqe, at\u00ebher\u00eb kur do t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb e keqja?<\/p>\n<p>Emocionet dhe frustrimi jan\u00eb sfida m\u00eb e madhe e jet\u00ebs dhe ajo q\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti.<br \/>\nSipas hulumtimeve t\u00eb sociolog\u00ebve, gjysma e problemeve n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri vijn\u00eb si pasoj\u00eb e emocioneve t\u00eb pakontrolluara.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>\u00c7far\u00eb jan\u00eb emocionet?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Emocionet ngjallen si pasoj\u00eb e hidh\u00ebrimit n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Kur p\u00ebrzihen k\u00ebto dy gj\u00ebra, at\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb rezultojn\u00eb sjellje negative ose pozitive, sipas vlerave q\u00eb posedojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>N\u00eb shum\u00eb raste Pejgamberi Muhamed alejhi selam na k\u00ebshillon me fjal\u00ebt<strong><em>\u201cmos u hidh\u00ebro\u201d<a href=\"#_ftn2\" name=\"_ftnref2\">[2]<\/a><\/em><\/strong><em>.<\/em>Fjala e urt\u00eb thot\u00eb se hidh\u00ebrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebna e t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb k\u00ebqijave.<\/p>\n<p>\u00cbsht\u00eb e natyrshme q\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb hidh\u00ebrohet, por m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja \u00ebsht\u00eb kontrollimi i hidh\u00ebrimit. Hidh\u00ebrimi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebn menaxhimin ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Allahu n\u00eb Kur\u2019an na sjell dy lloje hidh\u00ebrimesh q\u00eb kan\u00eb dallim t\u00eb madh mes tyre:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Hidh\u00ebrimi i Faraonit, i cili ishte nj\u00eb hidh\u00ebrim i pamenduar. I shtyr\u00eb nga hidh\u00ebrimi, ai dha urdhra t\u00eb cil\u00ebt m\u00eb von\u00eb do t\u2019i paguante vet\u00eb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong><em>\u201cE faraoni tha: \u201cI besuat atij (Musait) para se t\u2019ju lejoja un\u00eb? &#8230;Kam p\u00ebr t\u2019ua prer\u00eb duart dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt t\u00ebrthorazi, pastaj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb juve do t\u2019ju gozhdoj&#8230;\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Al\u2019Araf: 122)<\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li>Allahu tregon n\u00eb Kur\u2019an se edhe Pejgamber\u00ebt e Allahut hidh\u00ebroheshin, por hidh\u00ebrimi i tyre ndodhte kur njer\u00ebzit shkelnin kufijt\u00eb e Allahut.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong><em>\u201c<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>Musai u kthye te populli i vet i zem\u00ebruar dhe i pik\u00eblluar. Tha:\u201cO populli im, vall\u00eb, a nuk ju dha Zoti juaj nj\u00eb premtim t\u00eb mir\u00eb?\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Taha: 86)<\/p>\n<p>Duket qart\u00eb dallimi i madh n\u00eb p\u00ebrzgjedhjen e fjal\u00ebve dhe shprehjen e tyre, edhe pse t\u00eb dy ishin t\u00eb hidh\u00ebruar.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Pse ekziston kjo sfid\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Emocionet, frustrimi, zem\u00ebrimi zbulojn\u00eb brend\u00ebsin\u00eb e njeriut.<\/li>\n<li>Ato shfaqin karakterin e njeriut, a \u00ebsht\u00eb parimor, a ka vlera apo ka brend\u00ebsi t\u00eb zbraz\u00ebt.<\/li>\n<li>K\u00ebto ndjenja jan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019i njohur njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/li>\n<li>Jan\u00eb mund\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar vetveten.<\/li>\n<li>Ne m\u00ebsojm\u00eb nga gabimet tona.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Fjala e urt\u00eb thot\u00eb <em>\u201cena derdh at\u00eb q\u00eb ka n\u00eb brend\u00ebsi\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>D\u00ebmet dhe pasojat q\u00eb sjellin emocionet:<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Humbja e gj\u00ebrave t\u00eb mira.<\/li>\n<li>Largimi i njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb dashur nga jeta jon\u00eb.<\/li>\n<li>Humbja e respektit te njer\u00ebzit.<\/li>\n<li>Shkat\u00ebrrimi i jet\u00ebs.<\/li>\n<li>Thyerja e zemrave dhe l\u00ebndimi i njer\u00ebzve pa nevoj\u00eb.<\/li>\n<li>Joproduktiviteti, pasiviteti n\u00eb jet\u00eb.<\/li>\n<li>Ngutja, fjal\u00ebt e fundit i themi t\u00eb parat.<\/li>\n<li><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb Zubejr bin Avvami shkoi tek i D\u00ebrguari i Allahut alejhi selam dhe iu ankua se kishte nj\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshje me nj\u00eb person,me t\u00eb cilin i kishte kopshtet ngjitur. Uji kalonte pran\u00eb bah\u00e7es s\u00eb Zubejrit e pastaj te bah\u00e7ja e komshiut. Q\u00eb t\u00eb dy k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulnin q\u00eb kishin t\u00eb drejt\u00eb nj\u00ebri para tjetrit p\u00ebr ta ujitur bah\u00e7en. At\u00ebher\u00eb i D\u00ebrguari i Allahut(alejhi selam) e d\u00ebgjoi Zubejrin deri n\u00eb fund dhe i tha: \u201cUjite ti i pari e m\u00eb pas jepja mund\u00ebsin\u00eb komshiut q\u00eb ta ujit\u00eb bah\u00e7en e tij.\u201d Ky person q\u00eb ishte prezent i tha: \u201cTi i jep p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi Zubejrit sepse e ke djal\u00eb halle.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Shikoni \u00e7far\u00eb gabimi b\u00ebri ky njeri. N\u00ebse Pejgamberi i Zotit nuk gjykon me drejt\u00ebsi, at\u00ebher\u00eb kush pos tij do t\u00eb gjykoj\u00eb me drejt\u00ebsi? Allahu e kishte sjell\u00eb at\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur drejt\u00ebsin\u00eb mes njer\u00ebzve. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb moment zbrit\u00ebn ajetet kur\u2019anore:<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>\u201cP\u00ebr Zotin t\u00ebnd jo, ata nuk jan\u00eb besimtar\u00eb (t\u00eb asaj q\u00eb t\u00eb zbriti ty as t\u00eb asaj para teje) derisa t\u00eb mos zgjedhin ty p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjykuar n\u00eb at\u00eb konflikt mes tyre.\u201d <\/em><\/strong>(Nisa: 65)<\/p>\n<p>Shiko se ku e \u00e7oi personin n\u00eb fjal\u00eb moskontrollimi i emocioneve t\u00eb tij. I erdhi qortimi hyjnor se nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb besim p\u00ebr t\u00eb e p\u00ebr ask\u00ebnd tjet\u00ebr derisa nuk e marrin Muhamedin alejhi selam p\u00ebr gjykat\u00ebs n\u00eb mospajtimet e tyre.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Si ta tejkalojm\u00eb sfid\u00ebn e emocioneve?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Ne nuk pretendojm\u00eb ta largojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb sepse ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e karakterit, e natyr\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore, por synimi yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ta menaxhojm\u00eb at\u00eb, si t\u00eb dalim nga situatat e v\u00ebshtira kur sfidohemi nga emocionet q\u00eb sjell hidh\u00ebrimi yn\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00eb momentet kur sfidohemi n\u00eb jet\u00eb nga emocionet tona le t\u00eb hedhim k\u00ebta hapa:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>D\u00ebnim pa l\u00ebndim<\/li>\n<li>Qortim pa p\u00ebrbuzje<\/li>\n<li>Falje pa kompensim.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><strong><u>Lutja p\u00ebrmbyll\u00ebse<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Zoti im, mos lejo q\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb ta na verboj\u00eb hidh\u00ebrimi, t\u00eb na udh\u00ebheqin emocionet e m\u00eb pas t\u2019i shkat\u00ebrrojm\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e bukura, t\u2019i thyejm\u00eb zemrat e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb na duan, t\u2019i l\u00ebndojm\u00eb ata q\u00eb kemi af\u00ebr dhe t\u2019i largojm\u00eb nga jeta njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>O Zot, na ruaj, na udh\u00ebzo, na p\u00ebrmir\u00ebso gjendjen ton\u00eb<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref1\" name=\"_ftn1\">[1]<\/a>Sh\u00ebnon Buhariu.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"#_ftnref2\" name=\"_ftn2\">[2]<\/a> Sh\u00ebnon Buhariu.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Autor: Rashit Zylfiu<\/p>\n<p>Burimi: Libri &#8220;10 Sfidat e jet\u00ebs&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cMos u hidh\u00ebro\u201d[1] Shembulli yt \u00ebsht\u00eb si deti i qet\u00eb pran\u00eb t\u00eb cilit njeriu ndien qet\u00ebsi, rehati, emocione t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, stabilitet dhe siguri n\u00eb vetvete. N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ai hidh\u00ebrohet, ngrihen dallg\u00eb. T\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb mirat largohen sepse ai ka nd\u00ebrruar gjendjen e tij, as ne nuk ndihemi m\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb, rehat e t\u00eb sigurt [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":867,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[19,2,22],"tags":[45],"class_list":{"0":"post-866","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-artikuj","8":"category-e-zgjedhur","9":"category-shkrime-autoriale","10":"tag-sfidat-e-jetes"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/866","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=866"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/866\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":868,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/866\/revisions\/868"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/867"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=866"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=866"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rashitzylfiu.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=866"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}