Historia duhet fal\u00ebnderuar q\u00eb na solli detaje t\u00eb cilat ndoshta err\u00ebsira e injoranc\u00ebs son\u00eb do t\u2019i mbulonte, por ajo i zbuloi. Ajo\u00a0 zbuloi nj\u00eb sekuenc\u00eb nga kurora m\u00eb interesante q\u00eb historia sh\u00ebnoi. Ku dhe kur ndodhi nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, por pse dhe cili ishte sekreti? Kjo kuror\u00eb i dha kuptim jet\u00ebs dhe kontrat\u00ebs martesore larg formaliteteve q\u00eb njeh koha jon\u00eb. Ajo ishte e bazuar n\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, q\u00eb as xhin\u00ebt e as njer\u00ebzit nuk pat\u00ebn mund\u00ebsi ta prishnin, pasi ishte bazuar mbi shtyllat e besnik\u00ebris\u00eb, sinqeritetit dhe dashuris\u00eb.
\nProfeti Muhamedalejhi selam ishte vet\u00ebm 25 vje\u00e7, nj\u00eb djal\u00eb beqar q\u00eb martohet me nj\u00eb vejushe 40-vje\u00e7are, q\u00eb e lakmonin elita e burrave t\u00eb koh\u00ebs. Kush mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb tjet\u00ebr pos Hatixhesr.a., dashuria e Profetit kur ishte gjall\u00eb dhe e vdekur? Ajo ishte n\u00ebna e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tij, dashuria e jet\u00ebs, p\u00ebrkrah\u00ebse n\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi e rehati. Muslimania e par\u00eb n\u00eb rruzullin tok\u00ebsor. Kjo kuror\u00eb ishte edhe nj\u00eb faqe e re q\u00eb femr\u00ebs i dha pozit\u00eb si vajz\u00eb, nuse, grua dhe n\u00ebn\u00eb.
\nKjo ishte dashuri e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb sepse nuk u harrua as kur ajo iku nga kjo bot\u00eb. Viti q\u00eb vdiq u quajt \u2018viti i m\u00ebrzis\u00eb\u2019 p\u00ebr ta kujtuar \u00e7do her\u00eb p\u00ebr s\u00eb miri, edhe pse ndonj\u00ebra nga shoqet e saj mund ta xhelozonte k\u00ebt\u00eb dashuri edhe p\u00ebr s\u00eb vdekuri.
\nKjo kuror\u00eb u b\u00eb publike p\u00ebr bot\u00ebn dhe pasuesit e Profetit n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti, n\u00ebse d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb martes\u00eb t\u00eb suksesshme, modelin e kan\u00eb gati.
\n10 k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb arta p\u00ebr \u00e7iftin e ri
\n1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Jeta martesore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e qet\u00eb \u00e7do her\u00eb. Mospajtimet mes \u00e7iftit mund t\u00eb ndodhin n\u00eb \u00e7do moment, por menaxhimi i k\u00ebtyre situatave duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet me qet\u00ebsi e logjik\u00eb, larg emocioneve momentale.
\n2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Idealizmi i k\u00ebrkuar n\u00eb jet\u00ebn martesore nuk ekziston, sepse nuk ka vend, por pal\u00ebt e k\u00ebsaj kurore -djali dhe nusja- duhet t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb pozicionet dhe t\u00eb din\u00eb obligimet e veta sepse idealizmi n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve rr\u00ebnon e nuk nd\u00ebrton.
\n3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Martesa e suksesshme nuk n\u00ebnkupton q\u00eb \u00e7do her\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb sakrifica apo l\u00ebshime t\u00eb parimeve baz\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, por n\u00ebnkupton toleranc\u00eb, mir\u00ebkuptim nga t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt p\u00ebr zgjidhjen e problemeve pa u munduar ta faj\u00ebsojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb ruhet lidhja martesore.
\n4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Ruajtja e sekreteve n\u00eb jet\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortore nga pal\u00ebt ruan q\u00eb kjo lidhje t\u00eb jet\u00eb afatgjat\u00eb dhe \u00e7do dit\u00eb t\u00eb forcohet.
\n5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Kryefamiljar\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb ken\u00eb kujdes q\u00eb t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrfshihen n\u00eb \u00e7do mospajtim q\u00eb ndodh mes \u00e7iftit. \u00c7iftit duhet t\u2019i jepen mund\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb mospajtimet dhe problemet q\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb vet\u00eb, t\u2019i zgjidhin po vet\u00eb. Inkuadrimi i prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7iftit n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve shkat\u00ebrron sesa nd\u00ebrton.
\n6.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Fillimi i mbar\u00eb fillon kur \u00e7ifti ndan p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe detyrat.
\n7.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Monotonia dhe rutina jan\u00eb armiq q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i luftojn\u00eb \u00e7ifti sepse ai i p\u00ebrngjan nj\u00eb krimbi q\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb heshtur shkat\u00ebrron drurin, edhe n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00ebvje\u00e7ar.
\n8.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Komunikimi, besueshm\u00ebria, sinqeriteti jan\u00eb parime mbi t\u00eb cilat duhet t\u00eb lundroj\u00eb jeta martesore. N\u00eb munges\u00eb t\u00eb tyre, anija e martes\u00ebs do t\u00eb fundoset.
\n9.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00c7ifti duhet t\u00eb ballafaqohet me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs e t\u00eb mos dor\u00ebzohet.
\n10.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Martesa e lumtur k\u00ebrkon mund t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm dhe sakrifica t\u00eb m\u00ebdha p\u00ebr ta \u00e7uar n\u00eb maj\u00ebn e suksesit.
\n\u201cEdhe ata q\u00eb thon\u00eb: \u201cZoti yn\u00eb, na b\u00ebj q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb g\u00ebzuar me (pun\u00ebn) e grave tona dhe pasardh\u00ebsve tan\u00eb, ne na b\u00ebj shembull p\u00ebr t\u00eb devotshmit.\u201d (Furkan: 74)<\/p>\n
Autor: Rashit Zylfiu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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